Spring is just around the corner. Warm days are ahead. The sunshine is warming the earth and rain is bringing things back to life. I’m always amazed how early the grass greens up here in West Virginia. The green leaves of the spring flowers are up several inches so it won’t be long till splashes of color will dot the landscape. As a matter of fact, there are snowdrops already blooming down along the creek.
With the recent passing of Valentine’s Day and the advent of Spring soon upon us, love is all around us. New lambs and calves are making their appearance. Leaves are already popping out on the honeysuckle vines that grace the roadside where I walk down the lane. As we venture outside, I’ve noticed lovers holding hands as they stroll through the park, along the river, in the mall. I remember in the first couple of years after losing Mr. Virgo, I hated seeing people in love. I wanted to smack them.
The third year I decided I would never love again. A couple of disastrous dating experiences sent me running back to the relative safety of reading and writing alone every night. Now I’m approaching the fourth Angelversary and I’m thinking this isn’t the way I want to spend the rest of my life. I’d like some company. I’d like a friend to do fun things with. I’d like someone to share the excitement of travel. Someone to talk to. Someone to have my back and I his.
I’m feeling ready for a partner. And…I like my alone time. I like not having to answer to anyone. I like doing my own thing, making my own decisions, going where the wind takes me. Incorporating someone into your life when you’ve been alone for a few years takes some compromise and some getting used to. But, hey…what if you found someone that loves all the things you love like travel, cooking, movies, dancing, dining out AND he likes HIS alone time, too? What if you got to draw up the blueprints of a new relationship and it was exactly the way you wanted it AND it worked for him, too? Yeah…a pipe dream, to be sure. But it’s something to think about. And pray about.
I’m telling you this…I’m done with the online dating thing. I promised God I wouldn’t go out and try to find a guy because I think my picker is broken. I told him if He wants me to have someone in my life, He’s (quite literally) going to have to send him to my door with a sign around his neck saying “God sent me!”. If it happens, fine. If it doesn’t happen, fine. But I’m open to the possibility and that’s a huge step.
What about you all? Are any of you starting to think you might want to try another relationship? It’s ok if you aren’t. There are as many ways to do things as there are people. Many women would never think of being with someone else. And, it’s ok if you are. Personal fulfillment is a highly individualized thing. Feel free to share if you like. Spring is in the air! ❤️
“Humble yourselves, therefore, under God’s mighty hand, that he may lift you up in due time. Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you.”
1 Peter 5:6-7 NIV
Divorce is akin to the death of a partner. In my opinion. My one and only marriage “died” after 25 years. It hurt. Still does sometimes. I have experienced 2 very short term “relationships” since. I decided, like you, that if God wants me to have anyone else in my life He will have to literally drop him in my lap.
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I have seen a post on FB – if God can remove someone you never thought of losing he can replace them with someone you never dreamt of having. That’s what he did for me. I hope you find someone Jenny. ❣
Thank you, Glenda! ❤️
Ginny …You are such a great writer with all of your words ..you have help me get thru some rough days ..I love getting on my computer, read about your life , that you share ,. the love you had with Mr. Virgo, your dreams , your travel, One of these days I would love to meet you and give you a hug …God Bless You ………Dee
Thank you, Delores. You never know…our paths may cross one of these days! ❤️
I feel exactly the same way. I have to say I’m not very hopeful though as I don’t see many men I would be interested in living in WV. I have lots of friends, but it’s not exactly the same. That being said, if you ever want to meet for a mini adventure let me know. I joined SOF this year so will probably see you at one of their events anyway
Ruth, thank you for commenting. We are planning a Sister event in WV in September. Watch for the announcement! I’m sure our paths will cross!!! ❤️
Here is a man’s view point. I too have lost my wife after 42 years of marriage. I was 60years young and never wanted to be alone. After 1 1/2 years of loneliness I got on Match.com and found my perfect soul mate which I never thought I would, we have been together now 6 wonderful and eventful years with all the same likes and all the adjustments that have to be made to make a relationship work. I wish you the best and I feel that no one should ever be lonely weather it be family or a soulmate.
Thank you for a guy’s view, Dale. I found Mr. Virgo on match.com 12 years ago. I tried match again a year ago and it’s an entirely different experience now with fake profiles and trolls with nefarious intentions. I finally had to cancel my account and remove any reference. It was downright scary. This is my year to “reach”. Maybe I’ll reach and find Mr. Wonderful. Maybe I won’t. Life is sweet either way. I’m so happy you found your perfect soul mate! ❤️
After a nasty, nasty divorce back in the 80’s, I tried the dating scene…yikes! My girlfriends would tell me “Jane, you just prime all these guys to marry someone else” 😉 I mean seriously, 2 of them married within a month of our breakup. So I decided then to just give it up and get on with my life. I got back into tennis, I started journaling and decided my girlfriends brought me a lot more joy and fun. I also decided I just didn’t have the time or energy to deal with a man. And then, 7 years after my divorce…
BOOM – there he was. I was on Court #1 and he was on Court #4 at the tennis match. The rest is history—22 years of history.
Ginny, I learned back then that when you stop looking, he will find you 😉
You are doing all the right things, enjoying your life, thanking God for all He does for you. He will bring the right one to you. And when He does, I look forward to reading all about your adventures!
Oh, Jane…thank you for your words of encouragement and sound advice. That’s just what I’ll do! ❤️
It will be 4 years since I lost my husband of almost 37 years, this coming May. While at first I thought never again, I too have come to the conclusion it would be nice to have some one in my life again. I’m too scared to go the on line dating root that some have told me. I have been praying that God will bring the right one into my life again so we can make each other happy.
Susan…let’s pray for each other to find someone that fits well! ❤️?❤️