Day 107: The Mother-Daughter Dance...Take 2

On this day last year, I arrived in Colorado to spend a month with my kids and grandkids and to visit my brother. We were preparing for my younger daughter’s wedding and there were lots of fun activities and visits planned. I wrote on July 2, 2019 about the dance mothers and daughters do and how my relationships with my daughters have evolved and healed over the years.

Yesterday, after a very full and busy afternoon, I sat by the pool and had a long video chat with Daughter #1. We no sooner hung up when Daughter #2 called and she and I also had a long visit. It seems last year was a turning point in our relationship. We bonded over a family event. Then, as Covid struck, they started contacting me more and more often. For the first time in a long time, I am enjoying a mutually loving and supportive mother-daughter relationship with both of my girls and I couldn’t be happier.

They are so different which is made more noticeable by their sixteen year age difference. Daughter #1 reminded me her oldest is the same age she was when we had Daughter #2. I laughed and said, “Yeah…it’s a different ballgame now, isn’t it?” It’s so wonderful to have them at an age where they can look back and say, “Ahhhhh….so THAT’S what was going on with Mom back then!” Having only two children sixteen years apart was….challenging, to say the least.

Anyway, when I got off the phone with them, my heart was melting and soaring into the stratosphere at the same time. I miss them dreadfully and we talked about that. About how the times have changed and we all have to be responsible adults and put off our visit this summer. This will be the first year I can remember that I haven’t spent time with them.

And…we’ve never felt closer. It’s funny what the Covid Crisis has accomplished that all these years of mothering couldn’t. It’s the perfect storm…in a very, very good way.

To read last year’s post, follow this link: https://www.marshmallowranch.com/the-mother-daughter-dance/

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