One of the main reasons people fall in love and get married is chemistry. This includes being “tuned into” each other. One of the main goals of marriage is to keep that connection going. It can be all too easy to go adrift in your relationship. I think having that and losing it when Mr. Virgo died made me all the more aware of what I’d lost when he was gone. I was adrift without oars.
I frantically searched for someone with that kind of connection and in my crazed, grief stricken state, I even manufactured it. Then, after a few years of being on my own, I realized I had become in tune with God and that was far more meaningful. Then Mr. FixIt came along and he was icing on the cake. Let me give you an example.
We love macaroni and cheese, but we rarely eat it because of the fat and salt content. I usually end up making a pan of the homemade variety a couple of times a year, but that is an all day chore and frankly, I just haven’t been as into cooking this winter as I have been the last couple of years. I go in phases.
Mr. FixIt and I both had things to do in town yesterday. I went to the yarn shop to knit for a few hours with the girls, which was so nice. I left earlier than my sweetheart and sometime in the afternoon, we connected by phone. We both went on and ran errands. I was hungry and went on the hunt for something yummy. The only thing I could think of was macaroni and cheese. And not any old thing. I wanted Kraft Deluxe Macaroni and Cheese…the kind full of fat and salt. I was feeling peckish. I ended up with some take out from a Mexican place and it was…meh.
When I got home some time later, Mr. FixIt had beat me there by a half hour or so. I walked in the kitchen to put my leftovers in the fridge and what was sitting on the counter? Three boxes of Kraft Deluxe Macaroni and Cheese!!! This happens all the time with him. When we were just dating, he called me and asked how that bagel was that I had for breakfast. I hadn’t had a bagel in years…I hadn’t discussed bagels with Mr. FixIt…but I bought some the afternoon before and had just finished one when he called! It’s all so Twilight Zone…in the best possible way.
Keeping the lights on in a relationship shouldn’t be hard work, but it does demand attention. My dear friend Diane who passed away in December would read my blog posts about Mr. FixIt and say, “Better you than me, girlfriend. I have no need nor desire for a relationship. I’m fine here on my own.” We’re all different. I was doing fine on my own, but I sure am glad Mr. FixIt stumbled into my world!
My sweet little hat that I’m knitting is coming out lovely. I will say, cables slow you down. I’m a fast knitter, but you can’t really hurry through cables. You have to really pay attention. I had to back it up many times. But, it’s so pretty and soft. I’ve decided to try knitting a gift for each family member this year for Christmas. At this rate, I’ve got a good head start!
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“As each has received a gift, use it to serve one another, as good stewards of God’s varied grace:”
1 Peter 4:10 ESV