It’s the Memorial Day Weekend…traditionally the start of the summer season. Along with that comes social events and picnics in the park and outings of this sort or that. A blossoming romance is not entirely out of the question, even at our delightful age, so I am re-running a post I did a while back that is relevant. I hope you enjoy it and please, feel free to forward it…especially to our young lady graduates who will be heading out into the world soon.

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Never Settle

I am so happy my second daughter was still living at home when Mr. Virgo and I got married. She got to witness firsthand the way a woman should be treated in a relationship. I remember one morning, she came in to wake me up and crawled in bed beside me. Mr. Virgo came in right behind her with a cup of coffee for me and a kiss good morning. I thanked him and turned to my daughter and said “Don’t ever settle for less than this kind of treatment, baby girl.”

I wish all women had that kind of role model. There’s so much I wish I had been told back when I was just starting out. I had dinner last night with my high school slumber party girlfriends. It made me sit back and think about what might have been different for us if someone would have taught us more. So, in addition to the message in today’s meme, I’ll list a few snippets of wisdom.

• 1) Never make someone a priority to whom you are merely an option. This is easier said than done sometimes, especially when the feelings are not equal. We tend to want to make excuses, rationalize, and flat out pretend. Don’t. Just don’t.
• 2) If one of you isn’t “into” the relationship, there isn’t a relationship. This isn’t the normal waxing and waning of ardor. This is “You’re doing all the work and he’s just there for the beer.”
• 3) If you have to ask if you are loved, he’s not doing his job.
• 4) Your body is “Powerball”. Don’t give it away for a “Scratch Ticket”.
• 5) Wear matching bras and panties. No one else may ever see them, but YOU’LL know you are someone to be reckoned with.
• 6) Have enough money of your own to pay for the security deposit and first few months rent on an apartment if you have to get out.
• 7) A guy may say something blatantly unkind and hurt your feelings. Everyone makes a mistake. A mistake made more than once is a choice. Don’t make excuses for him.
• 8) You will not change him. You CANNOT change him. Do not…do not…do not try to change him.
• 9) Don’t neglect your girlfriends. Nurture those relationships. You’re going to need them some day. Trust me on this.
• 10) Trust your gut. If something doesn’t feel right, believe that. And last….people show you who they really are. Please…believe them.

Now, all of this being said, I want to tell my male readers…I’m not male bashing here. These tips can just as easily be reworded and given to men. I’m addressing women mainly as that is my reader base. Just know I’m sensitive to your issues as well.

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“Strength and dignity are her clothing, And she smiles at the future. She opens her mouth in wisdom, And the teaching of kindness is on her tongue.”

Proverbs 31:25-26